Sometimes it takes ages for me to finally get into dominant mode.
Just today, I texted about an hour with my pretty boy, and only then was I willing to video skype with him. We spoke on video skype for almost another hour. And we spoke only about vanilla subjects.
I was tired from work, I had had a long day, and somehow - even though I wanted to - I could not come up with the energy to start a scene.
I had threatened to punish him yesterday. Real life had come in the way and I had not handed out a punishment yesterday. I wanted to punish him today though. However, as I said, I was tired and without much energy.
When I started to speak about something he had done yesterday, something I wanted to punish him for, I realized that him and I had experienced the same situation yesterday completely different. For me, it was obvious that I wont accept such behavior. And he, he was all like: "What did I do wrong???? I have been good all day!!!".
I did not want to punish him for something when he does not even understand why I want to punish him for it. I know, I know, who needs a real reason for a scene, lol? But actually, if there is a real punishment reason, IMHO the scene is much hotter and much more real.
Whatever I did, my timing seemed pretty off today. So I kept talking about vanilla things with him endlessly. It was a good talk though, lol. I love talking with him. He is not only pretty but also a very interesting man. He was lying on his bed, relaxing, chatting with me, and I felt more and more comfortable. He had done an awesome job in unwinding me from work. And all of a sudden my dominant mode was back again.
When I told him to "get up and stand in the corner, now!", his first reaction was: "Do I really have to? Its so comfortable here." But for some reason I was suddenly back in the dominant flow. I made sure he went to the corner right away. He stood there and I just watched him for a couple of minutes. I was enjoying every single moment of it. And the longer I watched him, the more my dominant feelings grew. After a while I started to scold him, and lecture him, and gave him a bit of a tongue lashing. And the more I turned up the heat, the more submissive he got. And the more submissive he got, the more I enjoyed my dominance...All is good!