Tuesday, June 21, 2016

Go and stand in the corner!

Sometimes it takes ages for me to finally get into dominant mode. 

Just today, I texted about an hour with my pretty boy, and only then was I willing to video skype with him. We spoke on video skype for almost another hour. And we spoke only about vanilla subjects.

I was tired from work, I had had a long day, and somehow  - even though I wanted to - I could not come up with the energy to start a scene.

I had threatened to punish him yesterday. Real life had come in the way and I had not handed out a punishment yesterday. I wanted to punish him today though. However, as I said, I was tired and without much energy.

When I started to speak about something he had done yesterday, something I wanted  to punish him for, I realized that him and I had experienced the same situation yesterday completely different. For me, it was obvious that I wont accept such behavior. And he, he was all like: "What did I do wrong????  I have been good all day!!!".

I did not want to punish him for something when he does not even understand why I want to punish him for it. I know, I know, who needs a real reason for a scene, lol? But actually, if there is a real punishment reason, IMHO the scene is much hotter and much more real.

Whatever I did, my timing seemed pretty off today. So I kept talking about vanilla things with him endlessly. It was a good talk though, lol. I love talking with him. He is not only pretty but also a very interesting man. He was lying on his bed, relaxing, chatting with me, and I felt more and more comfortable. He had done an awesome job in unwinding me from work. And all of a sudden my dominant mode was back again.

When I told him to "get up and stand in the corner, now!", his first reaction was: "Do I really have to? Its so comfortable here." But for some reason I was suddenly back in the dominant flow. I made sure he went to the corner right away. He stood there and I just watched him for a couple of minutes. I was enjoying every single moment of it. And the longer I watched him, the more my dominant feelings grew. After a while I started to scold him, and lecture him, and gave him a bit of  a tongue lashing. And the more I turned up the heat, the more submissive he got. And the more submissive he got, the more I enjoyed my dominance...All is good!


5 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing this, Tina.

    I've experienced plenty of corner time and it is a quick gateway to subspace/attitude changes but it's also interesting to see it working for a Domme as well to help change her mood.

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  2. Two thoughts....

    You said this: I was tired from work, I had had a long day, and somehow - even though I wanted to - I could not come up with the energy to start a scene.

    My thought was.... "isn't it hard to try to establish a relationship when it's all 'fake'? I mean, a 'scene' isn't real life. It's a form of play. I admit, play is fun but it can't be the predominant way to relate to another. If it continues, the 'play' will no longer be special.

    And then I read this.... I kept talking about vanilla things with him endlessly. It was a good talk though, lol. I love talking with him. He is not only pretty but also a very interesting man. He was lying on his bed, relaxing, chatting with me, and I felt more and more comfortable. He had done an awesome job in unwinding me from work.

    And I thought, "ahh, she gets it. It's about relationship primarily. SHe is enjoying him for who he is, and he is doing the same with her. I hope the latter becomes what you two do most. I'm not saying you shouldn't play. I mean you are what, an ocean apart, so playing is fun but if you have the least bit of hope of making this something more than temporary your skype time should be talking about life, interests, stuff - all things that we do with all of those we love.

    I wish you well.

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  3. Tina,

    It sounds wonderful. When you feel dominant, he submits, and you both enjoy it. A "tongue lashing" is a wonderful thing in a domestic discipline relationship.

    I'm happy for you.

    Michael_Michael

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  4. I hope that this relationship works out for BOTH of you!

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  5. @Fur sissy: Seeing him in the corner is unbelievably hot for me.

    @I´m hers: Thanks for you input. At this point of time I just dont know what the future brings. It is true that we are separated by an ocean, and I am well aware of the challenges that the distance brings. On the other hand: the distance does not scare me at all.

    Regarding: "isnt it all fake": well, I dont have a final opinion on that at the moment.
    In the past, I often tried to "fix" people and their problems. In the last months, while doing endless meditating and internal work, I understood that there is nothing to fix. People dont need me to come and rescue and fix them. I dont have the abilities to fix anybody and there is nothing to fix. Basically, what I learned for me was: I can trust in life and in people to know what is best for them. And if they and I disagree on what is best, my opinion does not matter :-) It´s their life and they can decide what to do in their life. So if I tell him: "do this and this, because I know what´s good / or best for you" it is fake/ a scene only. I dont think that I actually know what is best for him in the big scheme of things. He has managed very well for 50 years to live a life without me, he does not actually need me to tell him what is good for him. :-)

    On the other hand, as far as domestic discipline goes: I get turned on by telling him what to do. I get turned on by making decisions for him. I get turned on by providing him with some boundaries. I get turned on by punishing and rewarding him. I get turned on by making sure he is doing things my way :-)

    It´s a contradiction of concepts, I know. And I cant solve that contradiction with my current knowledge and understanding of the world. That is why I somewhat accept the idea of "it is fake"

    The good thing is: It is not all fake :-) I am really having fun with him. I enjoy his presence in my life on so many levels. I feel very connected with him. He opens me up, relaxes me, he makes me laugh. I am so very much enjoying to be in contact with him, he has interesting stories to tell, I like what he does in life, we share the same basic values, and he is pampering me with his mind-blowing submissiveness and obedience.

    Yes, I am enjoying him for who he is. And I think he does enjoy me too for who I am. I made clear right from the beginning that I want to be seen as a woman, a human being, and not as a dominatrix only. We did not need to speak much about it, our views on that matter are pretty similar.

    We are hanging out a lot together. Relaxing, laughing, having fun, speaking about vanilla things. And these moments are as precious to me as the domestic discipline moments.

    In sum: there is a lot of potential in it and in him :-) I will just go with the flow and enjoy the wonderful moments I am having with him.

    @Michael_Michael: He gets wonderfully submissive. His voice changes, his body language changes, his whole attitude changes and me, I am getting more and more in the dominant flow.

    @Bobby: thanks. That´s what we are hoping too :-)

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