Monday, June 27, 2016

magnificence


Another anonymous asked recently:

When you say: "My message is more along the line of: You are a wonderful human being. I care about you. I see you. I want you to be happy. And if this means I have to spank your naked butt every day for the rest of your life, to make sure that the message sinks in, I am more than willing to do that for you." 


Are these things you are actually saying out loud to the man? Or is it just something you are thinking? If you're not actually saying them, how is the message getting conveyed to the man, especially if there is humiliation and pain involved, as is typically the case in any spanking scenario?

I am telling the pretty boy constantly how pretty he is. He sometimes tries to argue with me about it, and he is all like: "I am not pretty". But I always interrupt him immediately and tell him to shut up ;-) And he is smart enough to follow my orders :-)

Thanks to Skype, I have watched him for hours by now. In various vanilla and kink situations. And I always like what I see. I always like it A LOT! He is just beautiful. 

The other day I was already in bed, about to fall asleep, when he still had some work to do, like drawing sketches or something (not really, lol, but I won't tell you what he does in life). I asked him to let me watch him while he is working. Nothing spectacular was happening. He was doing his work, fully dressed, and I was lying in my bed, ready to sleep. But it was a very peaceful and calming and in a way intimate moment. I enjoyed it a lot. And I told him so constantly. He asked a couple of times: "You sure you wanna watch this? " And me, I was all like "Yesssssss, pleaaaaase" lol.

I cannot really speak for him, but I do believe that he is fully aware of the fact that I think he is a magnificent man. 

I tend to especially use the time when he is being punished and silently standing in the corner, with no  distraction for him and no possibility for him to "escape" my long sermons, lol, to explicitly tell him how much he means to me and how thankful I am that he is in my life. 


6 comments:

  1. Nice post, Tina.

    I'm probably coming close to wearing out my welcome with my questions. At the risk of doing so, perhaps I should have been more articulate with my question and the quotation I excerpted from your earlier post.

    I was basically trying to get at how you handle the spanking sessions. At one point, you said this:

    "In such scenarios, the feelings can be overwhelming. And it has happened, that the man started to cry. And these moments are super precious and deep. However: the tears did not come because I was giving him an unbearable amount of pain. Far from it. My message is more along the line of: You are a wonderful human being. I care about you. I see you. I want you to be happy. And if this means I have to spank your naked butt every day for the rest of your life, to make sure that the message sinks in, I am more than willing to do that for you."

    So, what I was trying to find out was whether these statements like "I care about you," and "You are a wonderful human being" were actually things you said during a spanking or were instead messages conveyed elsewhere (or things that were never said but which inform your approach to the relationship). I understand that you praise him and validate him quite a bit outside of that situation.

    The reason I was intrigued enough to ask is because of the more harsh, mean-spirited, punitive spankings I've seen described in other DD blogs.

    Let's call me "James" to keep this anonymous thing from getting out of hand, if it suits you to do so.

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  2. @James:

    The "I care about you" is the foundation of everything I do.
    I only spank a man if I care about him.
    And I might even tell him so during a spanking, yes.
    It all depends on the circumstances.

    There are different kind of styles to do "this thing we do".

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  3. "I'm probably coming close to wearing out my welcome with my questions. At the risk of doing so, perhaps I should have been more articulate with my question and the quotation I excerpted from your earlier post."

    "James" does that a lot. He also posts under the names Steve and Gravano.

    The "other blog" whose tone he disagrees with is mine: disciplinedhubbies.blogspot.com. After I banned him for launching personal attacks on the women commenters, he launched a knock-off blog at disciplinedhusbands.blogspot.com, which is 100% devoted to attacking the commenters on my blog, by name and taking their comments totally out of context. He gripes that I "censored" him, while he ironically closes his own blog to all comments while griping incessantly when he is taken to task for being a drama monger. So far, he's managed to get himself banned or been chastised by blog owners on my blog, Fetlife, and dominajen.com, and those are just the ones I know about. His routine is to come on and ask some seemingly innocent questions about the particular spanking, discipline, D/s lifestyle at issue, then they all start morphing to attacks on anything that he sees as "too harsh." Hence his focus on your posts about tears.

    I do, by the way, agree with him on one thing: You have a great blog. Just fair warning that you interact with this James guy at your own risk.

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  4. @Dan: Thanks for your support. And glad you like my blog :-)

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  5. Tina: Dan's hobby is chasing me around the Internet to "warn" people about me.

    He and I have a lengthy, personal, and unpleasant feud which is probably of no interest to you or your readers.

    Unlike him, you have cordially engaged me in challenging conversations, from which I have learned a lot, even where I might disagree. That dialogue was not allowed on his site, and personal attacks ensued and escalated.

    I probably won't be around much anyway, but I do appreciate the thoughtful answers you gave to my questions. I learned quite a bit about how things can be, and about what resonates with me. I have also been plugging your blog to others, even inadvertently, to a hostile adversary.

    I hope your trip over here went well.

    James

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