A reader wrote :
I wish someone would work with my wife to teach her the benefits to being a Domme and help her to learn how to do it more often.
I've been thinking about what you shared, and I wanted to pass on some ideas that might help you and your wife nurture your D/s dynamic. It's great that you're committed to making this work!
One thing that can really help is making sure that the dominance doesn't just start in the bedroom. It's about creating a vibe throughout your daily life. For example, you can show your submission by doing little things for her without being asked, like chores or cooking meals. It's these small gestures that can make her feel more in control.
You might also want to establish some rituals that reinforce your dynamic. This could be as simple as asking her permission for certain things or presenting yourself for "inspection" at a set time each day. Encourage her to explore different aspects of being a Domme too—like decision-making or planning social events.
It's also important to keep the lines of communication open. Have regular chats about what you both want, what your boundaries are, and how things are going. And don't be afraid to be vulnerable—share your fears and feelings with her. If you feel awkward during these talks, don't worry, we all do, lol. But this can really strengthen your bond and help her understand what you need.
Little things can make a big difference too. Like when you're watching TV, give her the remote control. It might seem small, but it shows her that you're willing to let her take the lead in everyday situations. In my opinion. the one with the remote control is the one with power ;-)
Exploring new activities together can keep things fresh and exciting. Look into new forms of play or dominance that you both find interesting. What kind of things do turn her on the most? what is it that she likes about being dominant? what aspects does she love? Focus on these and give her more of it.
Hope these ideas help!
And sure, I am willing to exchange emails with her if she wants to.
