submission at the beach

A few years ago, I had a memorable day at the beach that perfectly encapsulated the dynamic in my relationship with Richard. 

The sun was shining, and the sound of waves crashing against the shore set the perfect backdrop for a fun-filled outing. I was eagerly looking forward to swimming in the ocean, and Richard was right there with me, ready to support my enjoyment.

As we arrived at the beach, I felt a rush of excitement. “Richard, this is going to be amazing!” I exclaimed, glancing at the sparkling water. “I can't wait to dive in!”

He smiled, but I could sense a hint of apprehension. “Are you sure you want me to just stand here while you swim?” he asked.

“Absolutely!” I replied, my playful spirit shining through. “I want you to wait right here on the beach for me. Just promise me you won’t move until I come back.”

With a chuckle, he said, “Alright, I promise. But just so you know, I’ll be standing here in long pants, shoes, and a dress shirt!”

“Exactly! It makes it even more fun,” I teased. “I want you to fully embrace this moment. Just stand there and hold my towel and clothes. This is your time to shine.”

Richard nodded and took his position on the warm sand, holding my towel and clothes. As I waded into the refreshing ocean, I glanced back at him. There he stood, fully dressed, completely exposed to anyone passing by, and I felt a thrill at the sight.

“While I’m swimming, remember to repeat in your mind: ‘Women like to be waited on and waited for.’ Let that remind you of your place here!” I called out, emphasizing the playful power I held.

I could see him chuckle softly, and I knew he was fully embracing the moment. The sun beat down on him, and I could only imagine the curious glances he was receiving from other beachgoers.

Time seemed to stretch as I swam, enjoying the cool waves and the freedom of the ocean. Finally, after what felt like an eternity, I emerged from the water, droplets glistening on my skin, and walked toward Richard.

“Did you miss me?” I teased, clearly enjoying the moment.

“Of course,” he replied, a hint of relief in his voice. “You looked amazing out there. I hope you had fun!”

“I did! But honestly, watching you stand there was almost as entertaining,” I laughed, relishing the playful power I held. “You really stuck to your promise.”

“I wouldn’t want it any other way. You deserve to enjoy yourself,” he said, pride evident in his voice.

Stepping closer to him, I looked into his eyes, filled with appreciation. “I love that you’re willing to wait for me like this. It shows how much you care, and I really appreciate it.”

That day at the beach was more than just a fun outing; it was a beautiful representation of our dynamic. The joy I felt in embracing my role was matched only by the fulfillment Richard experienced in supporting me. 

Explore your submissive and kinky side

Are you ready to embrace your desires and dive deeper into the exciting world of submission? As an accountability coach specializing in femdom and female-led relationships, I’m here to guide you on a thrilling journey that celebrates your submissive nature. From the comfort of your own home, let’s explore the exciting dynamics of power exchange and unlock parts of your identity you may have never fully embraced.

Experience the Thrill of Being Submissive and Out of Control

This is your chance to feel what it's like to be under the control of a strict woman. Step into a world where you can live out your submissive needs in a safe, nurturing environment. All interactions will be conducted via email or phone calls, allowing you to engage in this thrilling exploration from your own private space.

Why Choose Coaching with Me?

• Expert Guidance: With a deep understanding of power dynamics, I’ll help you navigate the highs and lows of your submission journey.

• Safe Space: Our sessions provide a judgment-free zone where you can share your fantasies, explore your limits, and discover new heights of pleasure.

• Empowerment: Together, we’ll set boundaries and goals that enhance your relationships and enrich your personal growth.

Coaching Services

One-on-One Sessions
Price: $120 per session (50 minutes)
Dive into discussions that uncover your desires and fantasies. Each session is designed to ignite your passions and fuel your journey into submission.

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Weekly Accountability Program
Price: $400 per month
Enjoy four weekly sessions filled with personalized guidance and cheeky challenges. Perfect for those eager to keep their desires in check while exploring new pleasures.

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Weekend Intensive Coaching Package: Embrace Your Submission
Price: $500 for the weekend

Overview
This weekend package is for those who want to dive deep into their submissive journey. Experience a transformative coaching experience that allows you to explore your fantasies in a supportive environment.

What’s Included:

• Four Intensive Sessions: Two sessions on Saturday and two on Sunday, each lasting 60 minutes. We’ll focus on different aspects of your submission.

• Strict Structure: Prepare for a weekend where you’ll feel out of control as I guide you through exercises designed to enhance your submission. You'll call me "Ma'am" and feel grounded and present.

• Themed Focus for Each Session: Each session will cover topics like:

  • Exploring Control: Understand the dynamics of surrender and power. 
  • Desire and Restraint: Experience techniques like orgasm denial and edging.
  • Reflective Practices: Engage in exercises like lines writing and corner time, that deepen your self-awareness.
  • Goal Setting: Establish clear intentions for your submissive journey.

• Personalized Assignments: Between sessions, you’ll receive tailored tasks that keep you engaged and focused on your goals.

• Ongoing Support: Access email support during the weekend for any questions or reflections.

• Safe and Structured Environment: All interactions are conducted through emails and phone calls, providing a comfortable space for exploration.

• Indulge in a thrilling experience where you will feel completely out of control: I will push all your submissive buttons, making you call me "Ma'am." You'll learn to accept that I am in control, as you spend time in corner time, reflecting on your desires. You’ll write lines that reinforce your submission, learning to wait for your orgasms, while understanding that sometimes I might say no to what you crave most. This journey will ground you in the moment, making every experience more intense and fulfilling.

What to Expect

• Intensive Experience: This package is perfect for those who want to make significant progress in a short time. Be prepared for an emotionally rich weekend.

• Confidentiality: Your privacy is paramount. All discussions remain confidential, allowing you to express your deepest desires freely.

Ready to Transform Your Weekend into a Journey of Submission?

If you’re excited to immerse yourself in your submissive side and explore your fantasies over an intense weekend, this package is for you. Let’s discuss how we can make this experience uniquely yours. Your journey into submission awaits!

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How it works:

• Online Convenience: All coaching is conducted through emails and phone calls, allowing you to participate in your own private space.

• Personalized Approach: Each coaching plan caters to your unique needs.

• Confidentiality: Your privacy is sacred. All discussions are held in strict confidence.

• Ongoing Support: Between sessions, I’ll provide playful challenges and encouragement to keep you motivated.

Ready to Ignite Your Journey?

If you’re eager to embrace your submissive side and explore the exciting dynamics of female-led relationships, I invite you to schedule a free consultation. Let’s discuss your desires and craft a plan that elevates your experience. It’s time to finally live out your femdom fantasies in a safe environment—your journey awaits!

About me

I’m an INFJ, often described as a compassionate idealist. I thrive on deep connections and value meaningful relationships. My intuition helps me understand the emotions and needs of others, often allowing me to sense what they require before they even express it. I believe in the power of kindness and strive to make the world a better place, guided by my strong values and ideals.

As an Enneagram Type 2, I’m driven by a desire to help and support those around me. I find joy in nurturing others and often prioritize their needs above my own. My natural inclination to care for others can sometimes lead me to overlook my own well-being, but I’m learning the importance of setting boundaries and practicing self-care.

Creativity is a vital part of who I am. I enjoy finding innovative solutions to challenges and expressing myself through various forms of art or writing. My vision extends beyond my immediate circle; I aspire to inspire others, encouraging them to reach their full potential.

At my core, I seek love and acceptance and often fear being unworthy if I'm not helping others. I’m working on recognizing my inherent value, independent of my contributions. I believe that by nurturing myself, I can be even more effective in my support of others.

In my free time, I love exploring new ideas, engaging in deep conversations, and spending time in nature. I’m passionate about personal growth and am always on a journey to understand myself and the world around me better.

The Power of Positive Language in Our Femdom Relationships

As a dominant woman in a female-led relationship, I’ve learned that the words we use can shape our dynamic in profound ways. It’s essential to recognize how important positive language is, especially when I’m disciplining, punishing, or scolding my submissive partner.

Why Words Matter

I’ve always believed that my role is not just to lead but also to support my partner in becoming the best man he can be. This doesn’t mean I shy away from discipline; rather, I approach it with care and intention. Research from thinkers like Bruce Lipton and Dr. Joe Dispenza reminds us that our words can influence feelings and behaviors deeply. When I choose my words thoughtfully, I create an environment where he can grow, learn, and thrive.

Encouragement Over Criticism

In moments of discipline, it’s easy to slip into negative language—after all, the goal is to correct behavior. But I’ve found that framing my feedback positively makes all the difference. For instance, instead of saying, “You messed this up,” I might say, “I know you can do this better, and I’m here to help you.” This shift not only encourages my partner but also reinforces our bond of trust.

Creating a Safe Space for Growth

When I use positive language, I’m fostering a safe environment for my submissive partner. It’s essential that he feels supported, not ashamed, as he navigates his journey. When he knows that I genuinely care about his growth, he’s more willing to open up and reflect on his actions. This trust creates a stronger connection between us, making the entire process of discipline feel collaborative rather than punitive.

The Power of Positive Reinforcement

I’ve also seen how effective positive reinforcement can be. When I acknowledge the efforts he’s making, it motivates him to continue striving for improvement. A simple acknowledgment, like, “I appreciate how hard you’re trying to follow my lead,” can go a long way. This approach reminds him that growth is a journey we’re on together.

Building Trust and Connection

Ultimately, my goal in any disciplinary moment is to strengthen our trust and connection. When my partner feels that I’m invested in his growth, he becomes more engaged in the process. Using positive language is a powerful way to build this trust. It shows that I’m not just here to correct him but to guide and empower him.

Conclusion

In our femdom dynamic, the words we choose matter immensely. By prioritizing positive language, even during discipline, we help our submissive partners grow into the best versions of themselves. Embrace the power of your words, and watch how they can transform your relationship.

The Gift of Intuition: Understanding the Emotions Behind Male Accountability

 

As an author and coach specializing in female-led relationships, I often find myself in a position where men seek my guidance and accountability. What surprises many of my new clients is my ability to intuitively understand their feelings and needs almost instantly. It’s not something I consciously try to do; rather, it's as if a switch flips in my brain, allowing me to tap into a well of knowledge and experience that I’ve gathered over the years.

Having observed the dynamics between men, women, and couples, I feel like I possess a vast library of emotional insights that I can draw from. Each interaction I've had and each story I've learned about contributes to my understanding of what people crave and how they view the world. This ongoing collection of experiences enables me to empathize with my clients in a profound way. When a new client shares their story, I listen carefully to the details they provide. It's more than just words; it's about the underlying emotions, fears, and desires that often go unspoken. I’ve found that many men are surprised by how attuned I am to their needs.

My role goes beyond mere empathy; I have no problem holding a man accountable and providing the structure, guidance, and discipline that many crave. I genuinely enjoy being there for them, creating an environment where they feel supported and encouraged. It’s almost as if I am offering something I lacked in my own childhood. Growing up, I often had to find my own structures and navigate a chaotic world without the guidance I needed. This has instilled in me the importance of recognizing patterns and rules in people's behaviors. I learned early on to guide myself, and to this day, the people in my life often struggle with my vulnerability; they don’t respond well when I feel weak or overwhelmed.

When I engage with my clients, it feels like I’m sensing their potential and the beauty that lies beneath the surface. I strive to see them in their most authentic form, understanding what makes them tick and what aspects of their lives resonate with them. This intuitive approach allows me to create a clear roadmap for them—a path that outlines practical yet impactful steps they can take to improve their lives.

Being able to intuitively connect with my clients is not just a skill; it's a gift that brings me immense joy. It's fulfilling to help others unveil their potential and guide them toward fulfilling relationships and personal growth. The process of understanding their emotional landscape is like piecing together a puzzle, and when everything aligns, it's a beautiful moment of clarity—not just for them but for me as well.

Nevertheless, I often ponder why this level of understanding seems elusive to many. Emotional intelligence can vary significantly among individuals, influenced by personal experiences, upbringing, and social conditioning. For some, it may take years of deliberate practice to develop the skills to read and respond to emotions effectively.

As I continue my journey as a coach, I remain grateful for the ability to see beyond the surface. I encourage everyone—men and women alike—to cultivate their intuition and empathy. The world could always use more understanding and compassion. Together, we can create deeper connections in our relationships, whether they are romantic, platonic, or professional.

If you're eager to embark on your journey of self-discovery or explore the dynamics of female-led relationships, consider reaching out. Let’s unlock the beautiful potential within you

Merry Christmas and a Look Into the New Year!

The most wonderful time of the year is here! Christmas is just around the corner – a time for joy, gratitude, and hope. I want to take this opportunity to wish you a very Merry and Blessed Christmas. I hope you spend these special days with your loved ones, savor the small and big moments, and let yourself be enchanted by the magic of this season.

As the year draws to a close, it’s the perfect moment to pause and reflect. What was your personal highlight this year? Were there challenges in your relationships you overcame? Or moments where you felt truly connected and understood?

Looking ahead to 2025, I invite you to think about your resolutions, especially when it comes to personal growth and deeper connections. For those exploring the world of dominance and submission, female -led relationships or other intimate dynamics, what are your goals for the coming year? Is it about communication, trust, learning, or simply enjoying the journey?

Feel free to share your thoughts and ideas with me in a private message – I’m excited to hear how you plan to shape the new year in your relationships and personal journey. Together, we can inspire and motivate each other!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support, your messages, and the wonderful community we’ve built here together. You are what makes this blog so special.

Merry Christmas and a fantastic start to 2025!

Tina

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If you’ve been looking for something that feels sort of genuine, this video might be just what you need.

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The Art of Setting Boundaries: Why It’s So Hard for Me—and Why I Keep Trying

If you’re anything like me, you know that setting boundaries can feel impossible sometimes. It’s not just about knowing where your limits are; it’s about finding the courage and clarity to voice them. I’m not good at it yet. I wish I could say that I have it all figured out, but the truth is I’m still figuring it out. It’s a work in progress, and most days, it feels like an uphill battle.

One of the biggest challenges I face is my people-pleasing nature. I want everyone to be happy, to keep the peace, and to avoid conflict at all costs. But in trying so hard to make others comfortable, I often end up forgetting about myself—and my own needs. That’s where things get complicated, especially in my relationships.

Lately, I’ve been writing a lot about D/s, and it’s been both cathartic and eye-opening. In the context of D/s, I’m drawn to the idea of the man submitting—yielding control, giving up power willingly. It’s almost like a counterpoint to the constant power struggles I feel in my own life. It’s difficult to admit, but in so many of my personal interactions, I feel like I’m engaged in an endless tug-of-war for control, and it’s exhausting. It’s frustrating. It really sucks.

But writing about D/s has helped me sort through my feelings. It’s helped me step back and understand that I crave a space where boundaries are clear, where there’s an unspoken agreement that everyone’s needs are respected. It reminds me of what I want for my own world—a place where I don’t have to fight for my voice to be heard, where my feelings matter as much as anyone else’s.

Part of why this is so hard for me is because of how deeply ingrained my people-pleasing tendencies are. From a young age, I learned that saying “no” or putting myself first was selfish, that prioritizing my own needs could lead to conflict or rejection. That mindset has stuck with me, and even when I know that it’s important to speak up for myself, I feel the pull of old habits, telling me to keep quiet or go along with what others want.

In D/s, I’ve found a space where boundaries are not just respected but essential. It’s a framework that emphasizes clear communication and consent—something I’m trying to carry over into my everyday life.

My latest book is perhaps the most personal thing I’ve ever written. It’s not just fiction; it’s an exploration of my own desires and the boundaries I wish I could assert more freely. Writing about D/s has helped me confront these deep-seated feelings, shaping my understanding of what it means to express my limits and acknowledge my needs without shame.

Setting boundaries isn’t just a practical matter; it’s an emotional one. It’s about reclaiming my sense of self, telling myself that I matter and that my feelings deserve to be respected. But it’s also about more than just self-protection; it’s about creating a space where I can truly exist without the constant weight of trying to please everyone around me.

I’m learning to take small steps toward expressing myself more clearly. One practice that’s been helpful is identifying what I need in specific situations and voicing it, even if it feels uncomfortable. Whether it’s a simple “no” or explaining how I’m feeling, 

I remind myself that I don’t owe anyone an explanation for choosing to care for myself. It’s not easy, and I still fall back into old patterns, trying to regulate other people's feelings, more often than I’d like.

 But each time I try, I feel a bit more confident in my ability to assert my needs and to set the boundaries that help me feel safe and respected.

I’m not done learning how to set boundaries. I’m not perfect, and I still struggle with my people-pleasing nature every day. But I know that I’m making progress, even if it’s slow and uneven. Each time I take a step, no matter how small, I’m reclaiming a piece of my power.

Celebrating the Amazing Community Behind This Blog

Over the years, one of the most incredible things I’ve come to appreciate is the community of readers that have found their way to this small, relatively hidden corner of the internet. It’s easy to forget sometimes just who is reading this blog, but when I take a moment to reflect, I realize how truly amazing and diverse my audience is.

I’ve made connections all over the United States, from people in vastly different fields and areas of life. The conversations and collaborations that have come from these interactions have been nothing short of enriching. You are the reason this blog has remained such a fulfilling part of my life.

I also think there’s something special about the fact that this blog remains relatively small and somewhat hidden in the vastness of the World Wide Web. The limited visibility helps keep the audience focused on those who are truly passionate about "this thing we do". It’s a group of readers who take the time to engage deeply and thoughtfully with the content, making each comment and message feel like a meaningful conversation.

One of the things that makes this space unique is the deliberate absence of pictures. By keeping things simple and focusing solely on the written word, I’ve been able to attract readers who truly appreciate the power of thoughtful, intellectual engagement. This blog has become a place for people who value deep conversation and the exchange of ideas, rather than being drawn in by flashy visuals or fleeting trends. It’s this community that makes this space so special—people who are committed to substance over surface.

So, to all of you—thank you. Your feedback, your questions, and your continued support mean more than I can say. You’re not just readers; you are partners in this journey, and I’m beyond grateful to have such a thoughtful, intelligent, and wonderful group of people following along.

Here’s to many more years of thought-provoking exchanges, learning, and growing together.

Thank you for being a part of this!