I’ve Put Together a List of 100 Ways to Punish a Man in a Female Led Relationship

Many of you have asked me over time about good ways to punish a man or be punished within a female-led relationship. 

So, recently, I took some time to gather and organize a list of 100 different ways a woman can punish a man in a femdom dynamic. This list includes a variety of approaches—from playful to serious, physical to psychological, and everything in between. It’s based on my own experiences, things I’ve learned, and ideas that I think could help couples explore their power exchange in new ways.

I wanted to share this because I know it can be hard to come up with fresh ideas or to feel confident in how to implement punishments that fit your relationship style. Whether you’re just starting out or have been practicing femdom for a while, I hope this list can be a useful resource,

Here are a few examples:

Breakfast in Bed 

 What: You must prepare and serve breakfast to Mistress at her chosen time, with attention to detail and presentation. This punishment reinforces attentiveness and care, reminding you that Mistress’s comfort and satisfaction come first. It also serves as a gentle but clear reminder that your time and energy are to be devoted to Mistress’s needs, not your own. 

Command: Prepare and serve breakfast to me at the exact time I command. 

Polishing Mistress’s Shoes 

 What: You must clean and polish Mistress’s shoes until they meet her standards. This task is both humbling and practical. It reinforces respect for Mistress’s possessions and status, while also requiring you to pay close attention to detail. The act of caring for Mistress’s shoes is a symbolic gesture of your willingness to serve from the ground up. 

 Command: Polish my shoes thoroughly until I am satisfied. 

 Clean Mistress’s Car 

 What: You clean the inside and outside of Mistress’s car, ensuring it meets her standards. This task is a good punishment because it’s physically demanding and requires thoroughness. It demonstrates that you are responsible for the care of Mistress’s property and must maintain high standards in all areas of service. 

Command: Clean my car inside and out to my satisfaction. 

 30 Minutes Kneeling 

 What: You kneel silently for 30 minutes with your hands on your thighs and eyes down. Kneeling is a classic act of submission that reinforces humility, patience, and respect. The physical discomfort and mental stillness required help you reflect on your behavior and your role in the relationship. 

 Command: Kneel silently for 30 minutes, hands on your thighs, eyes down. 

Early Wake-Up 

What: You wake up one hour earlier than usual to complete an assigned task. This punishment disrupts your routine, reinforcing discipline and readiness to serve. It reminds you that Mistress’s needs take priority over your comfort and that you must always be prepared to act on her orders. 

 Command: Wake up one hour early and complete the task I assign. 

Wash All Linens 

 What: You must remove, wash, and replace all linens in the house, ensuring cleanliness and order. This punishment is physically demanding and requires attention to detail. It reinforces your role as caretaker and the importance of maintaining Mistress’s comfort. 

 Command: Remove, wash, and replace all linens as I command.

Stay Naked in the House 

 What: You are required to remain completely naked in the house unless Mistress allows clothing. This punishment emphasizes vulnerability, trust, and constant awareness of your submissive state.

Command: Remain completely naked in the house unless I allow clothing.

Masturbation on Command 

 What: You may only masturbate when Mistress commands. This punishment enforces control over your sexuality and reinforces your obedience to her wishes. 

 Command: Masturbate only when I command you to do so. 

Over the Knee Spanking on Naked Butt 

 What: You go over Mistress’s knee and receive a spanking on your bare bottom. This classic punishment is both humbling and intimate, reinforcing your vulnerability and Mistress’s authority.

 Command: Go over my knee and receive a spanking on your bare bottom.

For those interested, I’ve made the full list available on Amazon. It’s a straightforward collection meant to inspire and support you in your F/M journey. No pressure—just something I thought might be helpful for anyone looking for new ideas.