I only hand out punishments if I think the man`s behaviour demands my reaction. If my future partner was very well behaved, I would not punish him. In my view, a punishment is supposed to change the demeanour of the person punished. If my partner was well behaved, nothing needs to be changed. In that case I am going to make sure he has no doubt about how happy I am with his conduct.
But calm down, all you readers who are thinking "too bad". What is the likelihood of a man being in a relationship with a strong, dominant women and not sliping up?
Generally speaking, I do not punish for accidents. Accidents just happen. If there was no intent on my partners side, I am pretty sure we can find a mutual solution.
I am not so sure about "maintenance" spankings. I did not arrive at a decision as far as these are concerned. It probably depends on the man and his ability to obey me in general.
There is no doubt however that I am going to punish my man, if he does not stick to the deals we made or if he neglects the rules I set. In law school I `ve been taught: "pacta sunt servand". It basically means: "stick to your word or die trying it". This saying has become second nature to me. Therefore I am going to make sure my partner understands it too and acts accordingly. If we agreed upon him not coming home late, he better comes on the dot. If it was his turn to clean the kitchen, the kitchen better be sparkling. If he promised to stop smoking, I do not want to nab him with a cigarette.
There can also be situations where I make my man to accept unpleasant decisions "just because I can". My reasoning behind that is: I do want my partner to keep his strong points. I want him to have an interesting life. I support him to succeed in his job. I encourage him having hobbies and/or doing sports. Therefore I am allowing him great latitude. However, If I have the impression that his attitude towards me is slacking, I am going to make sure he understands that he can not proceed that way.
To me, "early bed times" are an interesting sanction. I am determined of implementing that action in any future relationship. As far as punishment is concerned, I understand many men are only interested in the spanking part. However, spankings combined with other forms of punishments might be much more effective.
In case he screws up, my future partner has to be able to stomach being send to bed by me at a very early time. I know this is hard to take and mortifying but I am not going to refrain from handing out that punishment. I want him to undress and go to bed. No reading, no phoning, lights out and shutters down. And if I think it is time for him to go to bed, I do absolutely not want to get in an argument about it with him. Even if the soccer world cup final is on tv. The fact that he is not tired is of no interest to me either. Far from it. I like the idea of him being forced to lay in bed even though he is wide awake. Gives him the possibility to deliberate his prior behaviour. I want him to understand that even if I let him his space in many aspects, I am still the decision maker in our relationship.
Hello Ma'am - I am not the type of guy that is attracted to a female dominant relationship based on spanking...I actually dislike spankings. I am however, very attracted to female authority and therefore understand and accept the need for punishment from her. Whether that punishment is in the form of spanking, writing lines, extra chores, standing in a corner or early bedtimes to name a few does not matter, I leave that completely to her discretion and obey her completely. I also like your approach to dominance...many women in this scene seem to nit-pick and feel that they need to be overbearing. I am not interested in being a child or a slave, I only crave and need guidance which I feel is best offered from a dominant female. thank you for your post ma'am. :)
ReplyDeleteSending him to bed early is an unfortunate waste of time for a busy family. There is simply too much to do to spend time that way.
ReplyDeleteA good spanking takes far less time and a far more efficient form of discipline.
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ReplyDeleteSending him to bed early is an unfortunate waste of time for a busy family. There is simply too much to do to spend time that way.
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Tom, you seem to be a bit confused about FLR--if she decides that early bed time is appropriate, then early bed time it is.
Spanking is *not* the only way to punish a man. In fact, clearly it's something you want, so, maybe that would not be the best technique for someone who wants that.
Topping from below means that things are a bit out of balance.
There are worse punishments than spankings.
Early bedtime can be most effective, for the very reasons you mention. It leaves one feeling managed and controlled, being sent to bed like a child, and provides lots of time to think about the behavior which earned you that very treatment. Like spankings and other forms of domestic punishment, it's seems perfectly fitting and appropriate. In addition, it would add to the electrifying dynamic of the relationship, knowing your partner wouldn't hesitate to send you to bed, among other things, if your behavior was less than perfect. There's something very appealing about submitting to that type of control within a female-led household, for many of us. I applaud your desire to include early bedtimes in your next relationship.....that lucky.....oops, I mean, unlucky gentleman. ;-)
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Since so many of you asked,and obviously could not believe I am serious here, I am gonna repeat myself.
ReplyDeleteYes, I would indeed send him to bed if I think it might be an appropriate reaction to his prior behaviour.
I don't understand why people would think you're not serious. It makes sense to me to send him to bed early if you think it's an appropriate reaction. That would be a sign of your control.
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I think an early bedtime would be very effective.
ReplyDeleteMy wife has never done this fortunately but she has mimicked outher little boy punishments such as making me wear a nappy (diaper) in bed (and on occassion during the day) to 'put me in my place. It is very effective and I hate having to wear it.
I would say however that I am someone who wants regular reminders fo her discipline. Whether as a maintanence spanking or corner time or whatever. It helps me to know the disciplinarian is still there, still watching out for and helping me. As well as still watching over our relationship. Plus, as I said somewhere else, a sore bottom helps me stay out of my head and in my heart.
Yes, early bedtime is an efficient way to discipline hubby. Mine is now 41 and is tucked up when I want , usually very early before my TV programs start or I go out in the evening.
ReplyDeleteI also put hubby to bed early when I have guests to be quiet with my friends. If he isn't already asleep, these ones have even the opportunity to see him in his bed and to wish him goodnight. Last Saturday, instead of going with him to the restaurant in the evening, I changed my plan and decided to go out with two of my female friends . Back home in the middle of the afternoon with hubby and my friends, I ordered him to serve us coffee, to prepare warm cocoa for himself then to go to bed. He only answered "Yes, darling", obeyed and went upstairs after clearing our table. Once undressed and with only his long pink nightie on (he has to wear nightie whilst I wear boys pajamas) he asked me if he had to close straight his shutters and curtains then to turn light off, ("Yes, off course!") and if somebody would come to babysit him. I told him to phone my mother. He did explaining her I wanted to go out and he had to go to bed now. Mom was all right. She lives in the near neighbourhood, visits me often and is gladly used for babysitting her son-in-law in bed. Hubby then said us goodbye, wished us a nice entertainment and kissed me tender before to go back upstairs and get into his bed with light off. When mother came half an hour later, he was already asleep as an obedient little boy as he is.
At the beginning of our marriage, we had many problems because of hubby's bad habits. To be disciplined with curfews, daily early bedtime, bed punishment, confiscation of money, credit cards and driving licence, has totally changed my husbands behaviour and solved all our problems. No more crisis, less expenses, a boosted sexual life for my greatest pleasure, a perfect submission from him and an absolute freedom for me. A real dream for a wife.
Your approach is very sane and quite refreshing. I especially like your view about him having an interesting life and succeeding in his career.
ReplyDeleteToo often, we hear about FLR scenarios where the wife wants to reduce her husband to a drone that serves her and nothing else.
Somehow, he's supposed to find fulfillment as a human being without developing any competencies outside of doing the dishes. That's just not healthy or practical.
Early bed would be a tough pill to swallow. But much like a good cough medicine, it works! I would hate it ten times worse than a spanking; being sent to bed to stew at 9:00. I'm a night owl so that's about the worst thing that could be done to me. It's quite devious ;)
Don't worry about naysayers. Some men like to tell dominant women how to discipline. What they really mean is, "do me!"
Anyway, your approach to discipline seems reasonable, practical and honorable.
I'm looking forward to reading more of your great blog.
i agree with David and Patrick. i am not married yet and i still live with my mother (just the two of us). She is very strict with me and i know that, when she chooses a wife for me, that lady will be equally strict because i need discipline to fulfil my potential. That is where david and Patrick's points are so important. Mummy has always encouraged me to develop myself and so i am a research student now, having passed my fist degree so well. And she takes me to the opera, to see plays, art galleries, everything. And she encourages me (well, MAKES me i suppose) read a lot. But very little Tv. And her punishments, while firm, are fair. She uses early bedtime as well as the hairbrush! Like Gisela, she sometimes asks other people to babysit me. Mainly it is her friend, Auntie Joan or her daughter who, since she became 16, has full authority over me too. She certainly uses early bedtime!
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If my wife sent me to bed early, I will comply without arguement. Would I "like" the punishment? No, I would not, making it a very effective punishment. I for one fail to see the logic in giving a person what they would enjoy as a punative measure.
ReplyDeleteYes Ma'am combination punishments are the best/worst depending on your perspective. My wife is my dominant. When she says jump, I am already in the air. I do not like to be punished however, I accept that I need to be disciplined however my wife sees fit. If she would institute this in our home it would not make me unhappy. When my wife punishes me I know it is because she loves me and wants for me to improve upon something about myself. I would never complain once! The fact that you are taking the time to devote this much thought to your future relationship shows me that you want a close, loving relationship, and trust me, he should be very appreciative of the fact that you put this much of yourself into your dominant role. I relize my wife has put forth a tremendous amount of effort in being the dominant woman who runs the household, and I have nothng but praises to sing of her.
Is it too ;ate to start this topic again. Early bedtimes are, for me and my wife, probably the most effective punishment she uses. of course, there are many others! She is the one in charge. she decides. But the one I fear most is being put to bed early. I don't know why but when she decides to dress me for bed and put me down I am reduced to a little boy and can put up no resistance. Do others react in the same way?
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It is never too late to talk about "early bed times" ;-) I still think it is super super hot. A man submitting to me in such a way makes my heart melt.
DeleteMy wife states act like a naughty little boy get treated as a naughty little boy. Early to bed I hate, have programs I enjoy and she knows it. The punishment does not stop with the spanking I'm having to wear little boy pajamas. If I get spanked early in the day, then the rest of the day I will wear the pajamas, no matter who might drop in. There have been time prior to bed she has given me a bath and it is not a bath that one enjoys. I told her I wanted her to be in charge, my desire to be spanked, she agreed, but her way. Our sex life is great but has nothing to do with the spankings and other punishment. Jack
ReplyDeleteIf you hate being sent to bed early, it is the perfect punishment ;-)
DeleteIt does not matter I hate, what 'Mommy' saids, I do, or face another spanking and still go to bed early. Jackl
DeleteYes it is the perfect punishment and have been sent to bed early when my mother-in-law has visited or her best friend. Told get my jammies on then come to the front room to show I did as told, my wife then excuses herself and saids she has a naughty little boy that is going to bed early. Jack
DeleteMy wife has my give early bedtime punishment for 5 days on 18 hours.
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My tall, dark haired wife puts me to bed whenever she feels like it. I am her senior by 15 yrs but it made no difference from even before we were married.I agreed from the beginning that she was in charge and she does not hesitate to exercise her options. She has kept me hairless and in chastity for the past ten years. She will let me get some "relief" at times but it's always "supervised"by her. And yes, she's kept me in panties the whole time when out somewhere on my own.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, back to my early bedtime discipline. Just like Gisela does, Sharon sends me to bed when her girlfriends come over and whenever she goes out with either the girls or by herself. She insisted on her total freedom before we were married and I agreed to it. I am not allowed to have any time unless she OK's it beforehand. I'll give you an example. Last summer she got a call from one of her girlfriends, inviting both of us to a big pool party. Sharon was asking who was going to be there and I heard her say "He is? Great!Yeah. I'll be there. Definitely! No, he won't be with me. I'm putting him to bed for the day." There was a pause and then laughing she said"Yeah, I know. Isn't it great? Come by around noon and we'll both tuck him in before we go". She giggled some more and said "Wait till you see my new bikini. Well, wait till you -know- who sees it!" Still giggling she told me to go upstairs,shave everything and get in bed naked because she hadn't decided on what I would wear. I headed somewhat glumly upstairs but I have to admit I was quite aroused. I was in bed around 1130 when she came up to the bedroom and smiled down at me and began to undress. When she was nude she handed me one of her razors and had me make sure her "bikini area"was totally smooth. She briefly played with my cage and told me that because it was summer she wanted me in my white babydoll nightie with matching thong panties. She wanted me to be cool while she was gone! I quickly followed her wishes as this is one of my "spanking" outfits. I rarely get spanked but this is the way she likes it. I lay there, properly dressed as my nude wife slowly put on her new black bikini. She started with the top first, turning her back to me and posing with her beautiful rounded bottom towards my view. Then she turned around and slid the bottoms up her long legs, all the while looking me in the eye and smiling that crooked teasing smile she uses when she manipulates me. She finally got the tiny bottom in place and then turned around, still smiling, as she showed me that she, my wife, was going to a pool party wearing a tiny THONG bikini in front of God knows who and I had to spend the day and probably the night, confined to bed wearing not only a chastity cage but a gossamer white babydoll nightie! "You like?" she asked teasingly. I was speechless!
She put on her shoes and a wrap that barely covered her and came over to the bed. She leaned down and gently massaged my "package" all the while, smiling that superior smile. She gently kissed me on the forehead and as she walked out, swaying her hips, she lifted the back of the wrap to give me a view. She stopped at the doorway and adjusted her hips at an angle and said"Sorry you can't come, sweetie. Nighty night"...! I heard her laughing to herself as she walked down the hall.
I got put to early to bed a lot last summer. Always in my babydolls.
And yes, this is all true. I promise you.
Glad you promised me that this is true ;-) It sure does sound like a male fantasy.
DeleteA wonderful woman I was seeing, five years older would say I sometimes needed to have a spanking. She did not know that I desired such. She had a nice home, and I would spend weekends at her place. One Saturday morning I walked into the kitchen, naked, erect, smiling. I learned this was not acceptable, she grabbed my arm pulled out a chair and i go such a spanking I was acting like a little boy who Mommy had enough. Well this was the beginning and we got married. It was six months or so that she decided that spankings would be a part of our life. They hurt but not as bad as when told I would be going to bed early. I was given a spanking earlier in the day, that evening her mother dropped in. It was seven or so and my wife told me to get ready for bed and be quick about it. My mother-in-law looked, not surprised and I said No, I'm not a little boy. I was quickly taken to the bedroom and told I was getting a spanking, it could be in the bedroom or in the front room. I was told to get my jammies on and i quickly did. Now young man when I say your going to bed early, you best do as told. Please I said, she took hold of my arm and over lap I went and I know my mother-in-law could hear me. When the door opened it was her, she handed her daughter a larger hairbrush and left. When the spanking was done, I pulled up my bottoms and was getting into the bed. Not so fast and to the front room I went, my mother-in-law smiled and I was told to face the wall. My wife quickly pulled down the bottoms of my jammies and i stood saying nothing. Fifteen minutes later I was told to pull up my jammies and get to bed, I said Yes Mam, my wife said not Mam, Mommie, you have been a naughty little boy and Mommies spank naughty little boys and send them to bed earyly. Yes Mommie and I went to bed. Our sex life is strong, our marriage is strong. Spankings and early bedtimes is what works best for me, my wife knows it.
ReplyDeleteAfter school I like fun things and also of meaningful things until my normal bedtime .
ReplyDeleteIf you know that with wan dicispline with which I myself harm one punishment is the teacher and my punishment for me is naughty behavior and lack of discipline: early to bed. Early bedtime punishments if I don't stick to agreements, Then I can pursue the goals. Some people like me are correct this extra motivation point and precisely this extra discipline are needed to continue with what they want to achieve. A few evenings at 17.30 pm for punishment going to bed will get through to me in such a way that every time I have to motivate myself for what I have trouble with. But it is certainly in my ability. The days of early bedtime punishments are after school so I get home am in my own spare hours Early bedtime is punishments dependent From what I did wrong 1 or more days to a maximum of 7 days. One week of punishment. Early bedtime punishments is now always at 17:30 pm. .
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just told. that I will from Monday 9-11 to Sunday 15-11'2020 5:30 pm just after dinner one sent to bed early all week become at 17:30 pm. Reason: Repeated lack of school discipline and punishment too often during role-playing at school Naughty adult schoolboy punishments for going to bed early
Early bedtime punishments is an efficient way to discipline for my adult schoolboy
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ReplyDeleteimmediately have to take off my clothes and shorts and put on some pajamas. 5 pm dinner and then beating hard on bare buttocks and going to bed as punishment. 17:30 pm
today for lack of proper study discipline. From my wife who teacther school roleplay is hard and had a lot of spanking on my bare bottom and have early bedtime punishment today saterday and morning sonday. My early bedtime punishment is this two evening at 18 pm.
ReplyDeleteToo many couples use spanking for a prelude to kinky sex. I agree with you, punishment should be punishment. If there are no errors, no misbehaviour there need be no punishment...but when it's needed to needs to be harsh, swift and it needs to hurt, either physically or emotionally..You must get your point across...beating him, making him stand in the corner, going to bed early, no dinner, no Sunday football are all valid punishments....even face slapping without warning and hard will get the message....of course all punishment must be agreed to before the relationship. A written agreement might be needed to keep the punishing party out of jail should the punished change their minds....
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ReplyDeleteSchoolroleplay teacher is not above class material but reads fragments and puts there ask questions to check whether I do my best with learning Rehearsal test yesterday and wrote the questions on paper and has One and I am the punished boy . Now the insufficient culpably insufficient and more misbehavior during school lessons this week so I don't stay behind from the lady in my own time as punishment Do I have to stay after another free hour during school roleplay Extra punishment
last Monday Spanking on my bare buttocks And then on knees and hands behind the back stood in the corner for punishment And next 5 evenings for punishment at 6 pm to bed. Monday to Friday because I didn't have enough disciplines and was naughty during school roleplay where serious learning is done