talk, talk, talk ...and spanking

What needs to happen for me to spank a man?

First of all, I will not spank any man if I do not really feel conected with him on a very deep and emotional level. So the really hard part for a man is to convince me, that he is actually worth being disciplined by me.

This might be much more difficult for some of you, than you probably realise. Because it means, that you need to talk to me about your feelings, your fears, your traumas and dramas. And it takes time...much time. I expect you to share a lot of information with me.And you will not get anything in return right away.

I am talking about sharing difficult information here. Information that you are usually not giving away to anybody else.I will ask questions about all parts of your life. Personal questions about your parents, your ex-wife, about religion and your believe, about your job, money ,sports, not to forget about your underwear :-)...I want to know as much as possible.

But no worries, I am a good listener. I love to listen to other peoples stories. I am able to pretty much talk about everything. Hey,I´ve been told that I am right in line with Dr. Laura, Dr. Phil, and Dr. Drew.If you have no clue who these people are, then chances are that we do not match in real life :-)

Talking to me is not a punishment. I don´t make you talk to me in order to make you feel bad, but to maybe make you feel good... one day. And think about it, talking to me does have its advantages. In real life, when is there actually anybody out there anyway who listens to your experiences, hopes, dreams and fears with real interest? And at this early point of time I do not even ask for your real name.So this is actually not a bad deal for the man, dont`t you agree.

However, and I am sharing really valuable information here, my advice is, with all this ongoing talk about you and your life, never forget that I have hopes and dreams and fears too. So do not forget to ask me about my life now and then at least. And no, questions about my panties, my sexual preferences or my willingness to accept your oral pleasures won`t do.As far as I am concerned the line "don´t talk, just kiss" does not work at all. Because if you don`t talk to me (in lenght...), there is no way to kiss me at all.

But once I set up my mind that you are actually worth my time, dedication, sorrow and love, I will not hesitate to give you a spanking if need be.Do I hear a sound of relief from some of you that I am finally addressing the "interesting" aspects? Well, get used to the fact, that for me the one does not go without the other.

Basically, once you found the way in my heart, there are two ways to make me give you a spanking:

A) you really piss me off or let me down. In that case I will blister your butt till you won`t sit comfortably for a long time. It will be about me expressing my dislike of your attitude or behavior.

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B) you show me your best side. If I am happy with you, I am willing to give you a lot. And if you are in need of a spanking, e.g. in order to get some stress relief, I will be there for you and give you what you need. It will be about you getting your cravings fullfiled. It will be my pleasure to make you feel better.

What I want

Relationships where both partners switch or role play don't really interest me.
I am looking for a man who is interested in entering an exclusive relationship whith me. A relationship in which I am the dominant part and he is the submissive one.

I am not looking for a slave or someone who calls me mistress and at the same time licks my boots, but for a man who is prepared to obey me. Someone who is willing to accept my leadership, even though I might make demands that force him to leave his comfort zone.

I'd like to develop a healthy and somewhat vanilla relationship with both an erotic and disciplinary twist as there is nothing I enjoy more than handing out a proper punishment if needed. Oops, does this all sound contradictory? I hope not.

Someone told me: "lawyer, you are not into the stereotypical bdsm but just a natural dominant in charge woman who is willing to discipline her partner." Sounds pretty true to me.

In my oppinion, some of the spankings you see described on the net  are unnecessarily harsh, and possibly exaggerated. I belife a wife does not need to hand out a very long or very cruel spanking to be effective and to make her point.
However, what do I know?  It is the man`s butt who is going to get it. If  he really needs or want an ass trashing, no problem, I am prepared to bring it on.