Saturday, January 7, 2012

a proper scolding

I have done my homework and by now my scolding abilities have definitely improved. Remember all my whining about me not being able to scold properly in English?  Well, I am pretty sure that problem is gone now. My English is sometimes still -let´s say- "questionable", but this does not prevent me anymore from scolding like an expert :-)

I really am into giving  tongue- lashings. I think they are a very valuable tool for making a punishment a real punishment. They help a lot in creating the right atmosphere for the actual punishment. I want the man to feel it in his stomach, long before he feels it on his butt. I want to hear a pretty high number of "Yes Ma`am" long  before I even start to walk him in the corner or make him go over my knees or tell him that he has lost some privileges.

I enjoy hearing a man trying to calm me down, trying to soothe me, trying to convince me that he is sorry and that he understands why I am unhappy and that he will never do "it" again. This is better than any actual foreplay can be.

I love these moments, when I know that the man really does not want to be punished right now, when he is trying to talk his way out of the puishment, when he is coming up with reasons why he does not deserve "it".
And when I, -while all this talking is going on-,am dead sure that he IS going to be punished. And he, even though he knows too that there is no chance to get away with it, is still hoping that this time, just this time, I might give him a carte blanche.


  1. You have described - perfectly - the essence of scolding. It is a punishment in itself, and knowing that is a prelude to a trip OTK only heightens its effectiveness.
    I can imagine that you are a formidable scolder; your writing is excellent, with exacting precision. A tongue-lashing (love that expression) from you must be a withering experience.
    Any chance of posting an audio clip example for your loyal readers? :)

  2. audio clip, lol, ahhhh, FL, I would die of embarrassement myself. Seriously, the language barrier is a big one for me. I just feel not comfortable with being "judged" by all you English/American native speakers. But who knows what the future brings. I have changed so much lately, maybe I will even post an audio clip one day.

  3. Glad to see you are back in shape -and in full form, it seems!
    When she is angered, my wife will scold before, during, and after she spanks or whips me. But she may also paddle or lash my bare butt for no other reason than the enjoyment she (and I) get out of it...


  4. Please do not think that just because we speak English that we judge you in anyway.I for one do not, your English is very good and your blog is excellent.As for scolding, for myself that is a huge part of domestic discipline and I love your comments on the subject and thank you for them.

  5. Tina, I'm glad that despite your many problems, you are thinking constructively again. A good scolding is an excellent prelude to a spanking. I think for many men a German accent might even enhance the scolding.

  6. There is a very excellant video on scolding available from the Disciplinary Wives Club. It features the famous Ms. Dana Specht and it really opened up my Lady's approach to both scolding and OTK spanking.


  7. Hi Tina,

    I agree that scoldings are a very important part of discipline and punishment. I think a scolding without a spanking can be worthwhile. I feel that a spanking without a scolding would not be very worthwhile.


  8. If you never show any mercy, he'll lose hope. On the other hand, if he thinks a free pass is a real possibility, he'll be far more fervent in asking for forgiveness. And the more emotionally invested he is in trying to find an excuse that will work, the greater the impact when he's turned down.

    In my opinion scolding is the most important part because it emphasizes that one person is accountable for their behavior to the other. Some people spank for erotic reasons only, but I've never heard of entirely erotic scolding.

    P.S. Your English has really improved.