Sunday, December 28, 2014

domestic discipline to my liking

I have written about this couple and their awesome video clips already, but this new video clip is just too good to not comment extensively on it.

I am lacking words to describe how much this clip turns me on. There is sooooo much in it, I do not even know where to start. So I will focus on the first 2 minutes of the clip.

I have been asked recently by a domestic discipline newbie: "are you really strong? I mean, what if I start to fight back once I am over your knees?"

(Btw: I finally DID end it with my boyfriend. Or better: I finally accepted that he is not longer interested in me. I released him, told him he is free again. So now I am free again too. Feels very strange though. Very unfamiliar. As soon as I had understood that he really does not want it/me anymore, I was able to let him go. I was always only interested in seeing him happy, and if I can't add to his happiness anymore, there is no sense in "forcing" myself into his life. DD is to 100% dependent on the partners being in it willingly, voluntarily, out of their own will. If he is not in it freely anymore, I understand that it is my responsibility to respect his feelings and withdraw myself immediately. And I did.)

So the new kid on the block/ blog asked me: "What if I was over your knees and what if I - for instance out of reflex, or triggered by old wounds -  started to fight back?  I am almost 190 cm tall" 
And I explained to him what this video clip shows in a wonderful way: if there is real loving domestic discipline going on, the physical size of both the man and the woman does not matter at all. The power exchange does not happen due to real physical power, but the power exchange happens mentally and emotionally.

The man has to give up control and power freely. The man can be -like the guy in the video- a tough former marine and the woman can be petite and still she can discipline him in a way that he will reach his emotional limits. There is no bondage needed. Part of the beauty and depth of domestic discipline comes from the fact that the man COULD always end it immediately, but CHOOSES not to end it.

The video starts with a wonderful, rarely to be seen, camera angle. Right in the guys face. He is sitting, the woman is standing and from the beginning there is no question  AT ALL who is in control here.

She starts to scold him and she is almost immediately reaching him emotionally. His body language is  just cute. Already at 0:25 is he touching his face/cheek with his hand without any obvious reason. It seems as if he is trying to sooth himself. And at 0:50 he is looking down, clearly avoiding her look.  I love how she gently touches his shoulder around 1:00 and his defeated look when she mentiones the  word "spanking".

He is trying to "safe his dignity" by making jokes, but she does not play along with his playful remarks and stays serious. It is so hot to see when he instinctively closes his eyes for a moment, when she tells him he is gonna get a "hard spanking" (1.23). For the first full 2 minutes of the video, she is  basically calmly but sternly telling him, that he will get spanked.

He has all the time of the world to tell her: NO. But he does not do it. He just accepts her authority and submits to whatever she intends to do. She eventually sits down, he is standing, and - without even saying it explicitly, - she orders him over her knees. 

He obeys and the real spanking can start. For me though, the prelude itself was one of the biggest turn ons I have seen in a long time.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Domestic discipline as good as it can be

I recently saw this domestic discipline video clip and I really liked it. I liked it a lot! It is always difficult to explain sexual fantasies and sexual turn-ons. This clip however shows exactly what I enjoy.  It is very rarely only that I find a F/m video online that represents the kind of thing I am into. This video clip though is one of the most realistic domestic discipline clips I have seen in a very long time.

I love the warmth and the closeness that the couple is radiating. No leather and latex and /or other fetish equipment needed. Just two people sorting things out between them in a loving and caring way. 

I love that she gives him a scolding before she spanks him and even after the spanking. I had to literally laugh out loud when she gave him a telling-off, told him that there is more that she wants to "discuss" and he briefly covered his face with his hands. (Around 07:30). It could be seen that she was reaching him emotionally and you never see things like that in purely commercial femdom videos. I googled the couple and alledgedly they are professionel spanking actors, but they are also a "spanking couple" in their private life.

I like how he is making jokes in the beginning, trying to lighten up the situation, and nevertheless accepting her authority. I think it is nice to see how she is trying to be stern and still radiats a bit of insecurity in the beginning. 

I think it is awesome that she makes him talk, that she makes him say that she deserves a better attitude from him. I love how she gently strokes with her fingers through his hair, how she tells him "I have been doing overtime kissing your ass".

The spanking seems real, not a "woman pretending to spank a man so he gets turned on by it"-thing. She wants him to learn a lesson and the insecurity that she showed in the beginning is gone when she smacks his butt. She knows she is right, and he knows it too.

I love that she tells him at the end to ponder for a while. We women, we ponder all the time, lol. How to improve the relationship, how to be better girlfriends, how to be less needy, how to give more, how to take less etc etc etc.
And the kneeling she makes him do at the very end, that is definitely not something he is enjoying either.  But he is doing it for her, because she wants him to, because she said so. And this is one of the sweetest things a guy can do :-)

And here is part 2.

Monday, December 8, 2014

At last!

No marriage, lol, but he relented and we are in contact again.

I am very happy.

I love him more than ever.