When I first discovered female-led relationships, it felt like stepping into a secret world—one that was exciting, a little taboo, and definitely out of the ordinary. There was a thrill in the secrecy, in finding others who understood, and in exploring something that felt so different from the norm.
But over the years, as I’ve talked with more like-minded people and made FLR a normal part of my life, I’ve noticed a shift. What once felt exhilarating has become, well… just something I do. It’s no longer a secret or a novelty. It’s just my normal.
And honestly? Sometimes I miss that old excitement. I miss the butterflies, the sense of discovery, and the feeling that I was doing something daring and new.
I suppose this is the natural evolution of any lifestyle or relationship dynamic. What starts as thrilling eventually becomes routine. Still, I can’t help but look back fondly at those early days and wonder if there’s a way to recapture some of that spark.
As in any relationship, it's important to try to keep things fresh, introduce new ideas and practises, explore new horizons together. That doesn't have to mean more and more extreme, just ways in which you can both rediscover what you love about FLR and each other.
ReplyDeletePlay board games but add an element of FLR.
Each write down 5 things you haven't tried yet but are curious about.
Reverse roles for a day.
Above all, make it fun and intimate and shared.