Just a short thought that crossed my mind today:
When I spank a man, when he is over my knees, it is as if I am saying to him: "I got you, babe. I got everything under control. I can take charge of things. I know what`s right or wrong and I am gonna take care of it. You are safe with me. Trust me. Just let me lead the way and all is fine." Me spanking means I am giving. I am giving energy, care, guidance, and love to the man. I might be spanking him, but in reality I am showering him with love.
With my former boyfriend, the love of my life, the man I still love today, the situation is different. I always knew that he is smarter, stronger, and generally more experienced in life than I am. And, in real life, he is an awesome leader who does not need much guidance from other people at all. When I spanked him, when I was having him over my knees, it was as if he was saying to me with his submission: " I got you, babe. I trust you. I let you lead the way. All is fine." Me spanking him meant: I am receiving. I received energy care, guidance, and love from him. In submitting to me and going over my knees he was showering me with his love. I felt just wonderful.