I know some people are curious about why I'm on Fetlife when I'm married. Here's the deal: my husband knows all about it and he's totally cool. He understands that exploring on Fetlife doesn't change how much I love him.
Look, relationships aren't about ownership. They're about trust, communication, and understanding each other's needs. My husband gets that this is about exploration, not replacing him. He knows that I love him., that he's my partner, my rock.
And let's be real - he doesn't want to hear every single tiny detail. I mean, who would? He trusts me and knows I'm responsible, but he's not sitting around wanting a play-by-play of my adventures. Some things are just mine, you know?
Fetlife for me is or was about understanding myself, exploring fantasies. It's not about finding a replacement - it's about adding depth to my understanding of myself and my sexuality.
The best part? My husband and I have total trust. He knows the big picture, supports me, but we're not obsessing over every single interaction. That's healthy. That's real.
So yeah, I am/ was on Fetlife. And I'm in love with my husband. Those two things? Totally compatible.
Thank you for the explanation, Tina. It's very personal and while you didn't owe anyone the explanation, it's very much appreciated. I'm glad you and your husband are able to have such an amicable accord on it.
ReplyDeleteYou owe no one any explanation.
ReplyDeleteof course you can do what you want. It's great that your husband and you are on the same page.
good luck to you in all your searches!