I wrote that post in 2011 and I still think it is true.
I am a Christian. I was baptized roman catholic and am lately going to a Lutheran church in my area. Even though I don`t go to a catholic mess too often, but prefer visiting Lutheran services, I would never change from being a catholic to becoming a Lutheran. My friend Tonja did that, and we talked about it a lot, but for me, the decision is made. I want to stay a member of the catholic church even though I know that there is a lot going on that is just wrong... But my roots are in the catholic church and I see no sense in cutting them off! So I will stay a member of that church and I will keep trying to give the church new spirit from within :-)
I want to live in tune with my Christian faith.My faith is important to me. There are many aspects that I do not understand and many things I don`t agree with,especially in context with the roman catholic church..., ( AND COULD ONE OF YOU GIVE ME AN UNDERSTANDABLE EXPLANATION OF THE CONCEPT OF TRINITY, lol, PLEEEEEAAAASSE...) but generally, I consider myself a Christian.I believe in a loving and caring God, a God who will never let us down, a good shepherd who is interested in the well being of his flock.
There is no doubt about the fact that domestic discipline and Christian faith are going very well together as long as the woman is the one who submits to the man. There are quite a few bible verses that point in that direction, e.g. "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. (Ephesians 5:23)".
Or this one: "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord" (Col 3: 18).
Generally speaking, it is often said that it is the woman`s job to serve the man. But as you all know, in my relationship, I am the one who wants to be on top. I want to be the one who administers domestic discipline.I want to be the "head" :-)
This seems to be a strong contradiction.I know. However, seriously, this has NEVER EVER given me the slightest headache at all. For me it is very easy to be a dominant woman and at the same time a faithful believer. And especially after having started to write a blog on F/m domestic discipline, I became even more convinced that it is absolutely ok to be a Christian woman and at the same time feeling an attraction to F/m domestic discipline.
I am convinced that by being a dominant woman I am actually serving my man. I give him what he is longing for, I provide him with what he needs, I take care of things that he can not take care alone of. Ever given yourself a spanking? Not really hot or satisfying, IMO.
I would even argue that in most dd relationships, the one who is on top is actually serving the one who is on bottom.
When I opened my blog, I got e-mails from many, many men who wanted me to dominate them. There is without a doubt a lack of dominant women out there. And these men are craving the strong hands of a dominant woman.I am having what many men want from a woman. A sincere and loving and dominant heart.
Did you ever read Ms Marie`s blog ? I like it very much. She seems to be tough and dominant and fearless. And her man has to undergo quite a lot of really difficult and challenging tasks in order to fulfill her remarkable demands. But at the same time, it is clearly to be seen ( at least for me...) that she is putting a lot of thoughts into giving him exactly what he needs. The fact that she is enjoying it as well is a nice addition, but overall, I think the one who profits most from her newfound dominant behavior is her husband.She keeps telling in the blog, that it has not always been a femdom relationship between her and her husband. She says that in the early years of their marriage he was the one who called the shots. In the past, she was the one who was submitting to him. And I think, as strange as this might sound, this serving heart of her can still be seen in the new F/m relationship.
Take this picture for instance. Did you see how nicely she is dressed? I am sure you did. But the question is: why did she chose these hot clothes? she could have worn just any regular clothes. She knew she would whip him and that he would probably cry from the whipping. But there was no need for her to get dressed up for doing it. You know, there are no hot, long, leather boots needed to spank a man in the woods :-) And did you see how lovingly she puts her left arm on his butt? To me, this does not look threatening at all.
She might be strict with him, she might expect him to do things that many men just would not do, because they would be too afraid of doing it... but whatever she is ordering him to do, she ALWAYS keeps his well-being in mind.
Furthermore: I have been aproached by quite a few men who - without making much polite conversation- wanted me to dominate them verbally/in writing. In my very beginnings as a blogging woman, I once in a while answered these men and went along with what they wanted me to do. But whenever I did that, I felt as if I would be used by them and in a way I felt abused. These men did not see me, they did not see the person Tina, all they saw was a woman who could give them what they needed and wanted. After all of these "sessions" I felt as if I just had served a client. All of my focus had been on the man and -even though I like dd and dominating a man- it had not been too much fun for me. It felt too much as if I had just been used.
In my relationship with my man however, everything is different. I love my man. And I know he loves me. He made sure that I know he cares for me. And I think he has no doubt in his mind that I care for him too.Our relationship is based on a solid foundation of love, respect and trust. In such a relationship I don`t mind being dominant with him and by doing that, serving him.Don`t get me wrong, I generally like to be dominant, however, what I don`t like is the feeling of being used. With him, I never had the feeling of being used. It always felt right, whatever we were doing, vanilla or dd.
Me, personally, I chose a strong man. I am convinced that he is even stronger than I am ;-) In a way, if he is submitting to me, he is giving up his natural authority over me freely. He trusts me and loves me enough to hand over all control to me. And by doing that, he allows me to serve him.
How on earth could I not care for his well being ? Whatever I do, seriously, WHATEVER I do, I am always considering his well being too. I want him to be ok, I want him to get what he needs, I want him to be happy. And now tell my, don`t you think I am serving him? I surely do! And the woman serving the man, isn`t that what the bible tells us to do, lol ?