It even makes sense that perhaps many women have been reluctant to accept the lead and adopt this lifestyle simply due to the enormous pressure of the implied perfection required to assume such an authoritative role?
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Ms Tina,
ReplyDeleteI can only assume that many a lady would be reluctant to assume the role of Dominant not because of expected perfection but rather not knowing what is indeed expected from them.
If someone where to look for examples or simple information on the subject in a bookstore or the internet they would be bombarded with visions of leather or vinyl clad dominatrixes holding an imposing leather crop.
Being dominant in FLR is like most things in life, a learning process. Discovering through experience what makes the relationship work.
That of course is only my humble opinion. My wonderful mistress has been growing in her role daily and I couldn't be happier.
Perfection?
ReplyDeleteI see the shoe being on the other foot.
Not at all, no one is perfect. No one is perfect and I can't imagine anyone of a reasonable nature who can expect it yet many of us let our women demand it.
Many of us want our lives to be better and we do want to be better men for our woman and we accept our role and let our women mold us in a fashion that would make us better suited for their desires and expectations.
In fact many men (and women) who practice DD freely accept the fact that there will be times when we may be punished unjustly.
However the concept and possibility of possibly being punished unjustly is much easier to accept than not being punished at all.
In fact if she's pissed I would rather be spanked raw than have her disapointed or angry with me even if I thought the spanking wasn't deserved. I happily would wear an undeserved sore throbing ass that I didn't deserve than have the pre-DD life of anger, resentment and arguments. So perfection is something she can expect and demand of me, but not something I would presume to demand of her.
"Being dominant in FLR is like most things in life, a learning process. Discovering through experience what makes the relationship work."
ReplyDeleteI do not wanna learn through experience, ahhhhhhhh, it seems I am just too much of a perfectionist. :-)
"However the concept and possibility of possibly being punished unjustly is much easier to accept than not being punished at all."
Hmmm, thats an very interesting thought....
Just posted a blog about my view on it, An Inconvenient Truth.
ReplyDeleteThe blogs for which you provide links depict a model that may not be typical of most of the relationships in which FM punishment occurs. In my own case,it resembled a Spencer Plan, but one in which my wife gave the majority of the spankings. Her right to punish misbehavior was not based on any supposed perfection on her part;it was simply part of a system of justice in which she corrected faults as she perceived them and I accepted her judgment in the matter. I recommend this as a useful model for many people, and in particular for you Tine; you should not feel pressure to be perfect.
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